Love is for everyone; and it does not need to be expensive if you know what suits best!
Everyday is Valentine’s Day, especially considering how Valentine’s Day has become more commercialized and has barely any resemblance to it’s assorted alleged roots in history. As such, any day of the year is a good time to express your love for the people around you.
You may love your partner, parents, family, or your friends. You may love your pet, people in general, nature, or even the world. You may even love yourself. Expressing your love is about letting the other party know there’s something extra you wish to do for them than others would. And, it does not have to be excessive.
Step 1 – Identify Their “Love Language”
Ever hear the common cliche that husbands don’t give wives gifts anymore after XX years of marriage? Or, how about when husbands say they don’t know what their wives want?
Even among friends, have you ever been to a gift exchange where a gifter’s level of excitement did not match the recipient’s? Jeng jeng jeng…
In 1992, Dr Gary Chapman published a New York Times bestseller titled ” The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate”. In this and his later books, Dr Chapman explained his concept that there are 5 love languages. Each of us responds more to certain languages and less to others. Let’s delve into his simple explanation using examples.
- Words of Affirmation – Praise, express gratitude, recognize good behaviors, acknowledge acts done for you.
- Gifts – Sincere gifts. Presents that match the situation and the person.
- Acts of Service – Doing an action like washing dishes, sending the car for servicing.
- Quality Time – Spending time with each other. Giving undivided attention. Talking and listening.
- Physical Touch – Holding hands, kissing, hugging.
Some of the languages may resonate with you more than others. So which do you “speak”, and which does your other party (spouse, friends, child, etc) “speak”?